Husbands, Love Your Wives
by Re’ Schlitt
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:25-28
A little over a year ago I came to the realization that my marriage of over twenty plus years to my wife Cheryl was on life support and would not last much longer unless we both acted quickly. Over many years we had both fallen asleep at the wheel of our marriage and drifted far apart allowing our relationship to grow stagnant. I had little hope that the marriage could be saved but felt I should try. To my amazement she agreed to work with me to try to save our marriage.
Several months later as I was reading my Bible I came across Ephesians 5:25-28. This passage spoke directly to me as a husband and required me to love my wife in a manner that I could barely imagine much less put into action. For me to love my wife as Christ loved the church seemed impossible and foreign to me. Surely Jesus does not expect husbands to be able to rival Jesus’s love for the church and love their wives with a love that deep. I spent weeks wrestling with this passage and wondering if living it out was even possible for me. All the while I felt God was calling me to obey his word, step out on faith, and love my wife as I had never done before in our entire marriage.
Eventually I gave in and told God that although I desired to love my wife in this way and experience the benefits it would create in our marriage, I knew that I could not attain it on my own and would need his help to love her on that level. What happened over the next few weeks and months, I can only describe as God working on my heart and in our marriage. My love for my wife grew by leaps and bounds to a level I never believed was possible. And as my love for her grew and I showered it on her, I was amazed at how much her love for me grew as well. Through my obedience to his word God not only drew my wife and I closer to each other, but closer to himself as well.
God is calling all husbands to love their wives in a way that most of us can only imagine and none of us could accomplish in our own strength. But the good news is that as husbands we are not on our own in this endeavor. The Bible says in Matthew 28:20 “I am with you always, even to the end of the age”. I would challenge all husbands reading this to take your love for your wife to the next level and love her in a way only possible with Christ on your side. I cannot begin to describe the difference it has made in my relationship with my wife and especially my walk with God.
Dear Lord, Thank you for your promise that you made to us to never leave us nor forsake us. I ask that you would empower us as husbands to love our wives in a manner consistent with your word and that you would bless our marriages as we strive to lead our families and follow your word. In Jesus name, Amen